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Disclosing to a friend tomorrow
By dstanley
5/4/2011 11:40:39 PM
I think I'm going to tell my friend (my visiting teaching companion) that I'm an addict tomorrow. I'm tired of feeling like I'm hiding things. The temple came up and I avoided telling her why I haven't been to the temple yet (I've been a member for almost 4 years). She's coming over tomorrow night to hang out. I'm going to play it by ear, but I want to tell her. I want to be open. I don't want to be hiding. I'm worried though, worried that it will be dumping too much on her. I'd pray about it, but I'm not really praying right now. Maybe I'll try though.

Comments:

Good For You    
"I think telling anyone something like that is pretty brave, whatever the reason. I admire you for it. I can tell you from my own experience that, while it's intimidating to reveal something so personal, it's also freeing. And I've noticed that, afterward, no one has treated me negatively. I doubt your friend will. And I doubt it will be a burden for her. If she's a real friend, then she'll want to help you in any way she can.

As for praying, YOU NEED TO PRAY! Sorry to shout, but prayer is powerful. One of my favorite quotes on prayer comes from Pres. Hinckley. He said "Believe in the power of prayer--it is real, it is wonderful, it is tremendous."

And I do believe it because I've been its recipient. It's when you least want to pray that you need to pray the most. In the scriptures, it says that "...if ye would hearken unto the Spirit which teacheth a man (or woman) to pray ye would know that ye must pray; for the evil spirit teacheth not a man (or woman) to pray, but teacheth him (or her) that he (or she) must not pray."

I'll be praying for you, sister."
posted at 01:33:03 on May 5, 2011 by Zero
what is your goal?    
"I was told that I need a goal in mind every time I disclose to someone. What do I want out of it? Do I want an accountability partner? Do I want prayers and support? Do I want to confess to someone?

I think if you go with that mindset, you are good to go."
posted at 12:30:30 on May 5, 2011 by Hurtallover
Hoping for Support    
"I like Hurtallover's suggestion about making a goal about what you hope to accomplish through disclosing to a friend. I think step 5 says in addition to confessing to the Bishop it is good to share with one other person. I talked to my therapist about that, and she said it is OK to be cautious. She said if I didn't want to share with someone else, not to worry about it. But she also encouraged me to share it with someone else if she thought it would be helpful to that person.

I know it has been a rough couple of weeks for you. Maybe you need someone close by to keep you accountable. I think that is admirable of you. Make sure she is someone you can trust.

I will keep praying for you."
posted at 17:04:56 on May 5, 2011 by want2change
It went well    
"It went really well. I have a handful of people that already knew and that I send email statuses to, but I just didn't like feeling like I was hiding from my friend and being dishonest. She was totally understanding and very supportive. It's actually the first time I've ever had anyone over to my house (I've been here about 5 years) to just hang out. It was great. We talked for a few hours. Thanks for the prayers."
posted at 22:43:40 on May 8, 2011 by dstanley


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