It Affects Everyone
By jjdanomaly
4/18/2011 12:35:54 PM
In speaking with my dad recently, I learned that two of my brothers have an addiction to pornography, which has afflicted them for about the same length of time as I have been afflicted. It saddens me terribly to hear of their troubles. They're younger than me. One is still in high school and has a mission before him, though I fear he may not be able to go until he resolves this problem.

I can't help but blame myself for this. It may not be true, but I feel as though their problems came as a result of my actions, that I was the one to introduce the atmosphere of this sin into our home (I live with my parents still). Because of that, the spirit of the devil was able to affect them more greatly. I can't take responsibility for their choices, but I can't help but feel responsible, at least in part, for what has come to pass.

A little over a week ago, I read the book "The Worth of a Soul" by Steven A. Cramer. In it, he describes his addiction to pornography, eventually leading him to commit adultery, which led to his excommunication from the church. He details his agonizing struggle to come back. One thing he mentioned in particular struck me as both terrifying and fascinating. He said that during his addiction, he would work at nights so he would use his daughters' upstairs bedroom to sleep in during the day. He said after a day of sin, he awoke from a terrible dream where he was hanging on the edge of a cliff and this daughter, whose bed he slept in, came running to help, but then fell down the chasm herself. After telling his wife, she explained to him of how that daughter had been complaining of being afflicted by evil spirits for some time, that they would "put bad thoughts" into her head, tell her not to pray and read her scriptures and not to believe her teachers at church. It frightened her in the night and give her nightmares so that she often had to go sleep with her mother. The author went on to say that it made sense, that his lust lingered around the bed that he slept in of this daughter's, that those evil spirits afflicting him would linger and torment her afterwards. In essence, his evil deeds would causing his daughter's downfall.

I had wondered at first if there was something similar in my situation, but my indulges were mainly confined to my bedroom and I didn't share any area of the house with any other family member in particular. But I see now that, to some degree, by bringing these evil spirits into my home, I gave them further access to my brothers.

I say this because I want others to know that we don't realize how much our actions affects those around us. They always do, even if we act in private and no one else is involved. It still has a great affect on those closest to us. I don't know the full extent of the damage that pornography has done to my brothers, but damage HAS been done. I feel the need to repent of this and will do so, and I will seek out their forgiveness for introducing it into their lives. I encourage anyone else to open their eyes to those around them and see more fully how their actions have affected others. It may be in ways you're not expecting, but I do believe that it affects them.


Bishop's advice    
"When I spoke with my bishop a few months ago, one piece of advice he game me was in times of temptation, to remember that pornography literally (he literally used the word literally) opens the door for Satan. You are doing nothing less than inviting him into your house and giving him that much more opportunity to inflict pain and misery on your family.

It is a sobering thought. Something I refuse to ever again subject my family to."
posted at 14:04:00 on April 18, 2011 by paul
So true-please read this article    
"What you are saying is right on the mark. I think many of us took what President Hinkley and others said too lightly about the deadliness of pornography and we and our families ar paying dearly for it.

First is a talk from October 2004 conference by President Hinkley and second is an article written by an ex porn star. Two completely people from two walks of like understanding the evils of this awful curse.,5232,49-1-479-20,00.html"
posted at 17:52:24 on April 18, 2011 by Anonymous
"To the above commenter, that article from the ex-porn star is fascinating. And terrifying at once. It helps me to realize how very real evil is, that Satan is using pornography to create the worst atrocities of mankind. It's terribly saddening that so many give their life over to this, but I can't judge them. I know how painful it is to feel worthless and willing to do anything for an escape."
posted at 19:02:12 on April 18, 2011 by jjdanomaly
This post    
"Is very chilling. What a way to put it, our actions truly affect everyone."
posted at 02:34:31 on March 13, 2012 by moroni

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