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What's working right now
By ETTE
3/27/2011 10:45:07 AM

I have done very well lately, in fact, I’ve done better over the past month than I have in more than a year. I just thought I would share some of the steps I’ve taken that have helped me so much.

1. I don’t go to group anymore. I know that group has helped me a lot in the past, but it just wasn’t helping me anymore, so I stopped going. I think I will start going eventually, but the change of pace has helped me do some reflection on how I’m doing.

2. I stopped working and reading about the twelve steps. Once again, I feel a nagging inside that tells me I will soon start again, but I need a break from it all.

3. I stopped keeping track of my days of sobriety. I have a general idea of where I’m at, but I don’t have it down to the day, and I don’t want to know the exact number of days either.

4. I started running. I’m trying to improve my three mile and one mile runs. In the last month, I’ve gone from a 28 minute three mile run to a 23 minute three mile run. I’m not great yet, but I’m getting better. The physical exertion of running makes me feel good. It’s kind of hard to explain.

5. I’ve filled my life with positive spiritual food. I read on the church’s site, < combatingpornography.org > that darkness and light cannot coexist, so we should fill our lives with light. I spend a lot of time reading church books like “The Miracle of Forgiveness.” I have also become more fervent in my prayers and scripture study.

6. This one sounds crazy, but it has helped a ton - I started drinking more water every day (I think this step would only help men). After a few weeks without any sort of “release” my prostate started aching when I would go running or stand up or sit down. It also became painful to use the restroom. I went to a doctor since my family has a history of prostate cancer, and the doctor told me that I don’t have cancer, I just have congested prostatitis. This condition arose because I went through a period of having lots of “releases” to a period of having none at all. It turns out that the burning/itching urge I feel when I’m sober is due to an enlarged prostate. The simple solution to this is drinking more water so I can have less concentrated urine, and thus my prostate can be cleaned out more often and more easily. I wish I had understood this a long time ago, but in all my recovery research, I have never seen this written anywhere.


I hope this will help some of you in your quest for recovery. I’ll keep you posted on what works for me, and what doesn’t.

Comments:

Interesting, very interesting...    
"Balance sums up your whole plan.

Let us know where this all takes you."
posted at 19:52:22 on March 27, 2011 by ruggaexpat
Great info    
"This was really interesting to read. Congratulations.

I relate with a few of your items. I've had some decent periods of sobriety (for me) of 60+ days, 30+, etc. but I always fell eventually. Right now things are going well and I don't have any idea what day I am on. Like you, I have a general idea, but not down to the day. I've also been exercising, which has been great. I read somewhere that exercise releases dopamine, the same chemical that is releases during intercourse and viewing pornography. Thus, exercise can be somewhat of a substitute for the addict.

I think there is something to be said for focusing on positive things in life and having the 12 steps, AR, etc. play a supplemental rather than a leading role in your thoughts. It's the whole "don't think of a purple elephant" principle. If someone tells you not to think of a purple elephant, the first thing that comes to your mind will be a purple elephant. Similarly, if we are focused on recovery to the exclusion of focusing on anything else, it actually makes recovery more difficult.

I should be clear here--in no way am I saying the 12 steps or addiction recovery aren't helpful. I wouldn't be where I am without them. I'm simply saying it can be counter-productive to spend every waking moment thinking about them. Rather than spending our lives trying not to think about pink elephants, we should think of ways to make the world better."
posted at 13:11:03 on March 29, 2011 by iwillnot


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