your prayers please.
By kaybee
2/1/2011 8:25:49 PM
i told myself that i would tell my mom what was up when i had been sober for 15 days. today is day 11 and im not looking back, and that means that day 15 will be on friday. its almost time for me to tell her and it scares me. i dont know how im going to work up the courage. or how im going to break it to her.


"The fear is just going to give you nightmares.
No worries, your mom must love you and will only want to help.
Disappointing others and loved ones included is part of life, the story of mine.

Just make sure you do things right so you don't disappoint a future loved one as I have done.

And buddy don't work yourself into an anxiety mess and lose the clean slate you have now.

Lets put it this way I would so want to disappoint my mom now instead of go through what I am at present."
posted at 22:02:43 on February 1, 2011 by ruggaexpat
Praying for you    
"Working up the courage to tell someone can be scary and a little nerve-wracking, but such a relieving experience after you actually do it! Even first opening up on this site about my addiction was a bit intimidating at first, but I feel so much better and stronger now for it. And just think, your Mom loves you WAY more than anyone else on here does (no offense, guys ;) so she'll be there to love and support you all the way. In my experience, parents always hurt more FOR us, than they are BY us. They're there to help us through thick and thin.

Go for it man! You can do it! My prayers are with you, bud."
posted at 22:48:35 on February 1, 2011 by JustMe
I will be    
"I'll be praying for you. Telling people has never been as hard as I thought it would be. Pray about it, and we'll be praying for you. You'll get through it."
posted at 00:20:02 on February 2, 2011 by dstanley
you are right justme    
"i know she loves me very much and she will be hurt for me, and i just dont want to do that to her. i know she will support me, but i also know she will cry for me, and she has a lot on her plate right now. i know its somethin i need to do, and you guys have helped. still nervous though."
posted at 00:27:56 on February 2, 2011 by kaybee
Family Support    
"Hi Kaybee,
I hope you are still doing well! Only one day to go! Good luck with telling your mom. Don't allow anxiety to throw you off your course. You're on the right path. (Even if you did slip up, it wouldn't be the end of the world and you could still tell your mom. That's the hardest step, but one of the most freeing.)

From one mom, I can tell you that yes, it's hard to hear. But I would rather know what's going on so I can pray for my son. Moms already know that something is wrong, they just don't always know what is going on.

You can hook your mom up with an LDS Family Support Group to help her out. I've struggled with addiction myself, but I also have a son who has struggled. He attends the LDS 12 Step Group and I attend the Family Support Group Meeting. It really helps to have a group of people who know exactly what I'm going through who can offer support and healing.

Prayers are with you! NEVER, NEVER give up!"
posted at 17:31:52 on February 3, 2011 by radiobug
Ditto Rugga    
"I know I said it before...I wish I had told my parents when I was a teen."
posted at 17:36:37 on February 3, 2011 by hubster
"well, i told my dad today, so i think that is about all i can muster up for this week. not to just be delaying, but i DID tell my mom today that i have decided 100% that i am going on a mission, and that seems good enough for now. she does know something is up, and i want to tell her, but i think it will have to wait a few more days. and thanks again you guys. things are still going good."
posted at 23:00:47 on February 3, 2011 by kaybee
Doing good!    
"You did good Kaybee! Telling a parent is a wonderful step for today! From a mom, to know my son is truly committed to a mission is a wonderful gift. I know when my sons told me of their commitment I knew that my prayers for them had to be double time. I knew Satan and his angels would pull out all the stops, if they have any. So your moms prayers for you will be a force for you! A mighty force! More powerful than the dark side. Heavenly Father loves mothers and supports them in a powerful way. You are showing such strength of character! Congratulations!"
posted at 00:42:50 on February 4, 2011 by Hero
"They are important too! He will understand in a way that mothers may struggle with. The family support group is the key for your parents. Just as a recovery group is sooooo important for you."
posted at 00:46:27 on February 4, 2011 by Hero
you are the MAN    
"ever hear the comment..

that you are never standing so tall as when you are on your knees.

I think that definitely applies here... what you did with your father is stuff that hero's are made of...

when this world is over with.. and we all look back... I believe it will be these moments when we will cheer the loudest. I envision a stadium full of people who will be silent at the recognition of what everyday humans have endured and had the courage to face in this life.

go celebrate somewhere... even if it's just a Frosty at Wendy's :) "
posted at 01:08:49 on February 4, 2011 by gracefull
Good on ya!    
"Well done telling your dad, Kaybee. And for committing 100% to a mission and letting your Mom know! I'll tell you one thing, you will be a much better, stronger, and more compassionate missionary for having gone through and overcome this addiction. You will know the Savior and the power of the Atonement from firsthand experience. Of course it's always better to stay away from the bad stuff in the first place, but you will have a different perspective on things from your experience that you can use to help those you teach. Missions are seriously an amazing experience. You're going to love it. Keep up the great work! :)"
posted at 14:02:35 on February 4, 2011 by JustMe

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"My brethren who are caught in this addiction or troubled by this temptation, there is a way. Don’t accommodate any degree of temptation. Prevent sin and avoid having to deal with its inevitable destruction. So, turn it off! Look away! Avoid it at all costs. Direct your thoughts in wholesome paths. Please heed these warnings. Let us all improve our personal behavior and redouble our efforts to protect our loved ones and our environment from the onslaught of ography that threatens our spirituality, our marriages, and our children. "

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General Conference, April 2005