"Free at last! Free at last! Thank God Almighty [I am] free at last!" -MLK
By They Speak
1/31/2011 10:52:50 AM
She (the wife) knows the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth...and so does my bishop. Its actually not as exciting as the title would have you believe. Its actually pretty shitty in most ways. But I am free (of deceit)...and have a measure of last. Maybe I'll tell ya about it someday.

"I may not get there with you. But I want you to know tonight, that we, as a people, will get to the promised land. And I'm happy, tonight. I'm not worried about anything. I'm not fearing any man. Mine eyes have seen the glory of the coming of the Lord." -Martin Luther King

this speech has our name written all over it.


"I'm glad that you were able to share everything with your wife and bishop. I know it was very freeing for me when I told my counselors the last of everything (details they needed to know that the bishop didn't). I have no secrets, and I'm not creating any new ones."
posted at 11:21:35 on January 31, 2011 by dstanley
Where you are and where you are willing to go!    
"Speak, Prayers go to you and your wife.

I found strength in this statement and wanted to share it with you.

Elder Jeffrey R. Holland
counseled us to “avoid backward glances toward the darkness
and remorse of the past.” And to remember: “God doesn't care
nearly as much about where you have been as He does about
where you are, and with His help, where you are willing to go.”

Elder Vaughn J. Featherstone shared: “When one has washed
his robes in the blood of the Lamb, they are no longer soiled . . .
When confession takes place, it ought to be from the inner-most
depths of the heart and soul. I want to be able to meet my
Savior with nothing left undone.”

From what little I know of you from your posts, although I might think I know much, I know that you do not do anything without it being from the innermost depths of your heart and soul.

Congratulations on your recovery journey. Now you are sailing with a rudder.

Love and Prayers,"
posted at 15:38:44 on January 31, 2011 by Hero
"Nice dude,

I mean nice for you but crap for her but...

I am so happy for you.
Hells bells I am so happy for you.

Taste that freedom bro taste it and then never forget the sweetness of it. That alone will be enough to stay on the straight and narrrow.

WOOOOOOHHHOOOOO He has finally spoken!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
posted at 21:02:26 on January 31, 2011 by ruggaexpat
Ok now that I just carried on like a bafoon...    
"Happy for you Speak really am."
posted at 21:03:32 on January 31, 2011 by ruggaexpat
"I'm still waitin for ol beclean to comment given that he seemed more anxious for this day then the Lord himself ;)

But seriously, thanks dudes.

Here's a short run down just for my "records" <--(rugga pun) :) It's sucked but honestly both her and I are almost bewildered by how its went down so far. The only thing we've come up with to describe it is our burdens have been lightened. Light like the people of Alma. Seriously. Sometimes, at least I and she claims the same, can barely feel them. She's a saintly chick. At first when I told her, it seemed like the end of the world. Literally! Then we started to talk about some of the answers to her prays this summer and...i don't know...the spirit of the atonement man...i don't know how else to say it. Not to wax all spiritual or pretend I'm anything but a whore monger but dang. And maybe all this isn't for or about me anyway so what ev. Anyway it still felt (that dirty nauseating sick all through out your body feeling that seems like it will never go away) a little up and down till the next day we went to the bishop and since then...i don't know...its good...pretty consistently. I did tell her I was glad we're gonna hit up some therapy just so we make sure she fully hits the stage of hating my guts and all that riff raff if that's what's healthy cause right now her and Jesus got way to much in common. Don't get me wrong she's destroyed and sad and broken and angry and all that horribleness, as am I, but like I said our burdens are light. Angels are pushin this hand cart. So at this point it looks like we're working it long as I don't [edit] it up.

p.s. Hero, Vaughn J. married us :)"
posted at 23:46:46 on January 31, 2011 by they speak
Also to Brighthope    
"If your still out there Brighthope thank you so much for your replies early on. I've never forgotten you or your influence. I can only imagine but I think my life in all honesty may have been radically different without you."
posted at 00:03:08 on February 1, 2011 by they speak
Congratulations They Speak!    
"Its odd the way it feels so good to set all of the secrets free, despite the obvious pain it causes everyone involved. Like further opening a wound to take the shrapnel out safely. The Lord has been on your side from the moment you committed to recovery, and every step you take in this direction gives Him more power and influence in your life.

I am happy for you! You and your wife will be in my prayers!"
posted at 13:01:27 on February 1, 2011 by paul
"Thanks for the inspiration. This may be the beginning of the hardest journey you have ever loved."
posted at 14:36:11 on February 1, 2011 by lawrence
"We are all happy for you. The step you took is hard, but not the hardest one. Now you will endure all of the pain caused as well as all of the blessings your Father in Heaven has in store for you.

You crossed a big ocean, now keep your eye on the prize. I had someone tell me the other day they could never confess all of their sins to another person. I said "that is the big fat lie which keeps us in darkness and continues the cycle that makes Satan happy". We must all do that first before we can truly change into the person of light the Lord wants us to be.

There will be days, weeks, and even months you will not believe it, but you will reach a level of peace and joy you never knew was possible.

To help others out here on the site, what finally lead you to opening this up to your wife and Bishop?

Thanks for sharing and congratulations. This is inspiring news!"
posted at 18:37:23 on February 1, 2011 by Anonymous
"To be honest: God. God "finally" lead us to opening up."
posted at 19:47:35 on February 2, 2011 by they speak
"I am assuming "us" means that your wife opened up as well. That is fantastic!"
posted at 13:51:57 on February 3, 2011 by Anonymous
Family Support    
"I'm new here, so I don't know what all you've been through. But I can only imagine having been there myself and having a husband who's also been there. It's tough (to say the least!). But I wanted to add my "Congratulations!" as well. I agree with Lawrence, this will be the best journey!

Be sure to have your wife attend the LDS Family Support Group - PASG. She will need the support in the coming months."
posted at 17:12:53 on February 3, 2011 by radiobug
"I knew you were destined for Royalty! To be married by Sir Vaughn J. Featherstone! Wow, sure beats the drive through.

My soul smiles for you!
posted at 00:30:44 on February 4, 2011 by Hero

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