How do you overcome narcism?
By Seekrecovery
1/22/2011 6:13:04 PM
So my wife is out of town which means I'm spending time reading Blogs here. I stop by the site every few weeks but have not posted in quite awhile. I'm still working on recovery and grateful for the ARP program. It was fun to log in today--Day 222.

I was reading a thread started by Rugga and came across the following paragraph about narcism. This paragraph was not relevant to that thread but very relevant to me. I'm curious if the person who wrote it (or others) may have some words on how to overcome this type of behavior. I'm working on the 6th step right now and this stuff fits me. I came to realize during the 4th step that I am largely motivated by what will build the image I think I should portray. In addition I also become very emotional (and angry) when I feel my ego (based on comparison) is threatened. When I say emotional I don't mean crying--rather just that I allow my actions to be controlled by my emotional response. Curious what resources others have used to overcome this behavior.

The paragraph that caught my attention:

"It is difficult to recognize a narcissist because he (or she) spends all of his time acting, protecting his ego by presenting to the world a mask, a false image of himself. Consequently he becomes a master of deceit. But it is extremely important to be able to recognize people whose behavior is detrimental to them, and their family.

A narcissist is not capable of putting others needs before his or her own needs.

Researchers have found that a narcissist reacts much more emotionally than a non-narcissist, sometimes with "narcissistic rage" when his (or her) ego is threatened. Social comparison information is especially salient as the narcissist processes social information in terms of its relevance to the self, that is, he reacts to negative feedback with more anger and aggression and lower self-esteem than a non-narcissist. In fact his mood and self-esteem fluctuations can usually be attributed to social comparison information."


I struggle with it    
"I don't think i have the disorder, but I exhibit it.

I will comment on how I am affected soon because it is late now.

Good to connect again seeking."
posted at 23:45:11 on January 22, 2011 by ruggaexpat

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"Freedom from your transgression will come through sincere faith, true repentance, willing obedience, and the giving of self. Why the giving of self? Because selfishness is at the root of your problem. Where selfishness and transgression flourish, the Spirit of the Lord can’t enter your life to bless you. To succeed, you must conquer your selfishness. When your beacon is focused on self, it does little more than blind your vision. When turned outward through acts of kindness and love, it will light your path to happiness and peace. "

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General Conference May 1990