A Real Relationship...
By paul
12/21/2010 2:49:26 PM
Just some rambling thoughts here...

Somewhere, along this path I've started learning that my relationships with Christ and my Heavenly Father my relationship with my wife should all be very similar things.

Intellectually, I know that God knows me better than I know myself. I know that He loves me more perfectly than I can even comprehend despite my faults, weaknesses, and shortcomings. I have KNOWN that for years.

While I knew those things intellectually, and logically understood that as a loving Heavenly Father, I could and should trust Him, I don't know that I ever knew how. I never really knew that an open, accepting, loving relationship like that could exist. I had no idea what one would look like. I don't think I've ever really seen it before. Never even considered that a relationship like that was even in reach for me.

I don't know how I missed it. Through all the Primary, Seminary, Institute, and Sunday School lessons I somehow missed how profound and deep the relationship between myself and Heavenly Father could be. It simply didn't make sense to me. Until recently.

I am weak. I make mistakes. I have made some serious mistakes in regards to sacred covenants. And yet, as Elder Holland has taught, "God doesn't care nearly as much about where you have been as He does about where you are, and with His help, where you are willing to go." He loves me anyway. I am willing, and wanting to improve myself. I need to be better than I have been. Repentance and a change of heart is what I truly desire.

What has been an even bigger shock to me, is that my relationship with my wife SHOULD be very similar to what I should have with my Heavenly Father. It should be open, honest, trusting, and absolutely loving. I say SHOULD be, because I have not held up my end of the bargain.

I have no doubt that my wife entered this marriage knowing exactly what could and should have been. It seems to me that most women, our lovely wives, have some intrinsic understanding of the deep meaning and value a celestial marriage could have. How do we men miss that? How do we not learn or understand the contrast between the temporal/carnal relationship and those that are destined for eternity? Why is the idea she has cherished her entire life so new to me?

I just pray that it isn't too late to begin building that relationship...


The Bridegroom    
"Christ is to be our exemplar in all things. So if the church is the bride, meaning all those who take the name of Christ and covenant to follow him, He set the very example of how our relationship with our spouse should be. Total selflessness...........sacrificing, service, forgiveness, love.......the scriptures tell the whole story."
posted at 17:17:36 on December 21, 2010 by Hero
Don't know about you    
"But in seminary and young men I was more interested in impressing the girls than wondering what divine relationship I could have with one in the future. Guess thats normal though for a teen."
posted at 19:43:23 on December 21, 2010 by ruggaexpat

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