By stephen99
12/12/2010 2:48:33 AM
This past week has been good a little frustrating at time but non the less it has been good in the fact that i am still sober for 16 days now. I am meeting with the bishop tomorrow and i hope that it goes well. I hope my wife doesn't cry because i hate it when she does i always feel terrible. This week at the meeting I went to a different on Wednesday and it was difficult to see many people i knew. My wife came with me both weeks and has been very supportive i am very greatfull that she has been able to support me in my recent efforts to quit. After we were talking about what we learned and after a while she told me that she has told my parents about my addiction. It was hard for me to hear. It is difficult to know that you have let down someone else you love and respect and want them to be proud of you. They have recently been very different around me and it is very uneasy going to visit now because they are disappointed.


"I understand your uneasiness! That is natural. They love you like your wife obviously does. Your wife might have needed support. Is she attending a support group for spouses PASG'S? This would be beneficial for her. She needs her own recovery. Many areas do not have this program yet. The Family Support Manual on the left of this screen in purple is the PASG'S manual. There is a new manual that has been submitted but that manual may not be available for months. Download the manual on the left and give it to her. I am a missionary in this program and there is healing in those pages for your wife. She has to have someone who understands and can give her the support she needs. If there is not a program in your area have her come to this site. She does not have to do this alone . Support her recovery as she is supporting you.

It is late and I might be repeating myself. She most likely told your parents for support. The advantage for you of having your parents informed is that gives you more accountability . This should help you in recovery.

I hope all goes well with your Bishop. And way to go!

You are on a great path and I salute you."
posted at 03:51:54 on December 12, 2010 by Hero
Dear Stephen99    
"There is Hope in Recovery. I am a recovering addict to PASA. I have dedicated my life to working the LDSAR program and like HERO, I hope to serve a mission in this program. So many of our priesthood leaders view this program as an aberration. They have not seen the big picture yet. They soon will.

I love this program and yesterday I bought my own copy of "Clean Hands, Pure Heart" by Brother Philip A. Harrison. What a saint! Already he is my hero!!!!! He has been down in the trenches. He is my role model. You are on the path. The Lord needs Priesthood brethren who are strong in their recovery and will lead out and provide the light needed to "bring those who are struggling out of darkness into the marvelous light of Christ.
My prayers for your lovely wife. Treasure her as the gift from Heavenly Father that she is.

Happy 17th Day of Sobriety. If you hit a pot hole or fall down and skin your knees, just get back up and brush yourself off. Take the Savior by the hand and say, "Ok, I'm ready now. Sorry for the slip.""
posted at 09:21:55 on December 12, 2010 by 3R's
Congrats and Good Luck    
"Congrats on the Sobriety! I hope all will go well with your bishop.

I'm glad your wife is being so supportive. I agree that you should encourage her to work her recovery as well. She needs to work the steps too. Hopefully your visit with your parents will be a good thing. At least you don't have to pretend around them. I know that it was a relief to me when I didn't have to hide that I go to 12 step meetings from my mom. We don't talk about it a lot, but at least I don't feel like I'm having to lie or be vague when I need to leave her house to go to a meeting. Perhaps spend some time praying about your visit.

Keep plugging away, you can do this!"
posted at 13:50:09 on December 12, 2010 by dstanley

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"Lucifer will do all in his power to keep you captive. You are familiar with his strategy. He whispers: “No one will ever know.” “Just one more time.” “You can’t change; you have tried before and failed.” “It’s too late; you’ve gone too far.” Don’t let him discourage you. When you take the path that climbs, that harder path of the Savior, there are rewards along the way. When you do something right, when you resist temptation, when you meet a goal, you will feel very good about it. It is a very different kind of feeling than you have when you violate commandments—an altogether different feeling. It brings a measure of peace and comfort and provides encouragement to press on. "

— Richard G. Scott

General Conference May 1990